Self-Help and the Myth of “Better”

In a world where we’re constantly told to be our best selves every day, every moment, have we lost touch with simply listening to our gut?

Do we overanalyse ourselves to the point where it just feeds that little voice of doubt, that annoying persona on our shoulder whispering, you’re not enough?

Hands up, I’ve spent hours (days, if I’m honest) reading, listening, working through self-help books and podcasts. Always asking: What’s wrong with me? How can I be better? How can I be more like… xyz?

But recently, I’ve realised something big. I’ve been trying so hard to be someone else, to fit a version of what I thought I “should” be, instead of just being who I am. And who I am, deep down, is enough.

If that’s not enough for others, then maybe they’re just not my people. Because the people who truly matter are the ones who make us thrive, who celebrate who we are, not who they want us to be.

We’re all different, and that’s exactly what makes life brilliant. Expecting everyone to act the same, react the same, or think the same? Utter rubbish. Our differences are what make the world richer, they help us learn, connect, and see things in new ways.

So what am I saying?
Never apologise for who you are or how you do things.

Be you. Be proud.
Support and learn from others.
And most importantly - be kind to yourself.